Kom Cov Menyuam Tau Txais Kev Koom Tes Li Cas

2024 Tus sau: Daisy Haig | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:09

Los ntawm Dorri Olds

Koj cov menyuam tau thov tus dev thiab koj tsim nyog ua haujlwm, ntseeg lawv cov lus cog tseg lawv yuav tu tus tsiaj. Yog li, koj tuaj yeem ua dab tsi tam sim no uas koj tau ua txhua yam haujlwm? Txhob txhawj. Peb cov kws tshaj lij muaj cov lus teb.

Cov Cwj Pwm Cwj Pwm

Ib txoj hauv kev - tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau cov menyuam yau - yog tsim cov qauv cwj pwm. Tus kws kho mob thiab kws sau Judith Belmont sau hais tias "Cov menyuam yaus ua qhov zoo tshaj plaws nrog kev txwv thiab qhov tshwm sim tab sis tsis yog tias koj mob siab rau,". "Daim duab ua tiav yog qhov ua tau zoo."

Feem ntau, koj muab lub luag haujlwm tshwj xeeb rau koj tus menyuam. “Hais tawm qhov koj xav kom lawv ua, piv txwv, taug kev tus dev tom qab noj hmo Monday, Wednesday thiab Friday; pub dev rau yav sawv ntxov hnub Tuesday thiab Thursday. Txheeb xyuas thaum lawv tau ua tiav txhua txoj haujlwm. Thaum muaj qee tus lej ntawm cov thawv raug txheeb xyuas, lawv tau khwv tau qee yam. Piv txwv li, tsib daim tshev thiab koj coj lawv mus ua yeeb yaj kiab.”

Los Tawm Tsam Tsis kam tiv

Okay, yog li yog tias lawv tseem yuav ua tsis tau dab tsi yog qhov cia siab ntawm lawv? Janette Sasson Edgette, Psy. D hais tias "Yuav tsum muaj qhov tshwm sim yog qhov tsim nyog yuav tsum yog qhov tsim nyog," tus kws sau ntawv tso cai thiab kws soj ntsuam kev puas siab ntsws hauv kws kho mob tshwj xeeb. Ib tug menyuam yaus uas pheej tsis mus kawm ntawv tej zaum yuav tau them nws niam rov qab vim nws tsav nws lub tsev kawm ntawv.

Rau kev ncua lub luag haujlwm ntawm tus tsiaj, "them sijhawm rov qab tuaj yeem suav nrog kev pab ua cov ntawv sau ntawm niam txiv chav haujlwm, lossis pub sijhawm rau niam txiv nyiam," hais qhia Sasson Edgette. “Yog tias lawv loj dua, kom lawv khiav ua haujlwm xws li coj tus tsiaj mus rau tus tsiaj lossis mus rau tom lub khw muag khoom. Kuv hu cov kev cuam tshuam no 'qhov yuav tshwm rau qhov tsis xis nyob.'”

Cov cai no tsis tas yuav ua nruj ua tsiv thiab lawv tsis tsim nyog rau txim. “Nws zoo li koj tau hais tias, 'Zoo, nov yog qhov kev txiav txim siab tsis muaj hmoo. Raws li koj paub, ntawm no yog dab tsi tshwm sim tam sim no.

Tsis txhob Mus Nqa Kev Yuam Kev

Tus kws kho mob hlwb Tina B. Tessina tau hais ntxiv tias, "Txhua lub sijhawm muaj haujlwm tsis saib xyuas zoo," cov kev rau txim yuav tsum zoo ib yam rau qhov tsis ua haujlwm hauv tsev lossis tsis saib xyuas lwm yam haujlwm hauv tsev. Ua khov kho. Txog thaum lawv tau ua tiav cov haujlwm tsis pub tus me nyuam muaj cov khoom kim heev, xws li siv cov khoom siv hluav taws xob, lawv lub xov tooj ntse lossis saib TV. Yog tias koj khaws qhov tsis txaus koj tab tom qhia koj tus menyuam kom tsis lees paub."

Muaj Qhov Tseeb Zoo thiab Tsis Zoo

Belmont hais tias, "Cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem ua raws li tus cwjpwm kom tsis txhob ua rau lub txim tsis zoo." “Txav deb ntawm qhov ua rau tsis zoo yog paub ua ntej tias yuav mus dab tsi. Yog tias nws los nag thiab koj nqa koj lub kaus, koj tuaj yeem qhib koj lub kaus thiab kom qhuav; yog tias koj tsis nqa koj lub kaus, koj yuav tau txais ntub dej. Qhov ntawd yog lub txim tsis zoo ncaj qha ntsig txog koj tus cwj pwm. Koj xav qhia txoj haujlwm ntawm menyuam. Koj muab rau koj txoj kev xaiv. Lawv tuaj yeem zam qhov kev rau txim los ntawm kev coj tus cwj pwm zoo."

Ua li cov hluas ne?

“Cov tub hluas ntxhais hluas ib txwm xav tau qee yam thiab lawv xav tau qhov phem heev. “Nws yuav yog lawv xav mus tom kev lom zem, lossis mus tom khw rau khaub ncaws tshiab. Yog li, nws yog qhov koj hais tias, 'Yog lawm, koj tuaj yeem ua li ntawd, thaum koj taug tus dev.' Nws yog qhov zam tsis tau rau leej niam leej txiv los tsim kev txwv rau koj cov menyuam. Nov yog koj txoj haujlwm."