Yuav Ua Cas Thiaj Dag Dag Ua Aub

2024 Tus sau: Daisy Haig | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:09

Los ntawm Kellie B. Gormly

Kev hma tuaj yeem yog lub suab tsis zoo rau cov niam txiv dev (thiab lawv cov neeg nyob sib ze!), Thiab feem ntau tau nce siab rau cov teeb meem cwj pwm. Txawm li cas los xij, canine vocals tsis yog txhua yam tsis zoo. Qee zaum, tus dev tom hav zoov tuaj yeem muab lus ceeb toom txog kev nyab xeeb thiab lwm lub sijhawm, qhia tus dev kom tawv rau ntawm qhov lus hais yuav ua rau muaj kev lom zem tog.

"Muaj ntau tus neeg yuav xav tau lawv tus dev txhav tawv thaum muaj cov neeg txawv nyob ib puag ncig, lossis ib yam dab tsi tsis muaj dab tsi hauv zej zog," tus kws qhia kev cob qhia cov dev hauv nroog Los Angeles tau hais nrog Jonathan P. Klein. "Thaum peb qhia tus aub kom ua ib yam dab tsi, qhov tseem ceeb yog kom lawv ua kom ntseeg siab tau coj tus cwj pwm ib txoj kev los sis lwm qhov."

Yuav ua li cas, tom qab ntawd, koj puas qhia koj tus dev kom tawv rau ntawm cov lus kom tsis muaj kev puas tsuaj rau nws lossis txhawb kev thab plaub? Los ntawm kev qhia kev ua kom yuam kev thiab tsis yog kev coj tsis zoo, hais tias Beth McGonigal, tus kws qhia txog tus dev uas tau tso cai thiab tus tswv ntawm North Pittsburgh Tsiaj Cwj Pwm. "Peb tsis xav tsim cov dab yappy me ntsis."

Nws muab piv rau kev qhia dev kom tawv rau kev npaj qab zib nws muaj nrog nws tus dev, Jefferson. Thaum nws hais cov lus khawv koob, “qhia rau niam saib!” Jefferson muab nws hnia daim di ncauj, uas lom zem rau ntawm kev hais tab sis tsis yog ib yam khoom ua niam txiv xav tau ua txhua lub sijhawm.

Yuav Ua Cas Thiaj Dag Dag Ua aub

Txais tus cwj pwm uas koj xav tau thiab muab nqi zog rau nws los ntawm kev ntxias koj tus dev nrog ib tus txiaj ntsig uas ua rau nws zoo siab, zoo li tuav lub pob los yog lub tswb pob ntseg. Txoj cai ua ntej tus dev txhav, hais qhov lo lus koj xav qhia (nws yuav txuas cov lus txib nrog suab) ces muab koj cov dev los kho rau nws lub suab rau nws. Yog hais tias nws tawv ncauj tab sis koj tsis tau hais kom ua, tsis txhob muab nqi zog rau nws. Tom qab qee qhov rov ua dua, nws yuav pib paub tias yog tias nws tawv ncauj, nws yuav tau txais kev kho mob, hais tias McGonigal, uas tseem siv cov nias rau kev qhia.

Koj tuaj yeem ua rau tawv ntoo los ntawm ua tej yam uas ua rau tus dev npau taws, xws li thawb ib lub pob tawm ntawm nws qhov kawg ntawm lub rooj vag menyuam. Tom qab koj hais cov lus txib, koj tuaj yeem muab txiaj ntsig rau tus dev los ntawm kev muab nws kho nrog ua si nrog lub pob. Rov ua qhov txheej txheem los ntawm qhov nqi zog koj tus dev rau tsuav tawv ntawm cov lus txib ces, thaum nws paub qhov lus txib, txo qhov kev kho mob thiab ua rau lawv muaj kev cuam tshuam ntau dua, Klein tau hais.

Ib qhov lus samhwm kom qhia yog “hais lus,” tabsis cov dev tsis paub txog cov lus Askiv no; lawv tsuas yog paub nws yog tias tib neeg qhia lawv kom koom nrog nws ua tawv ntoo, McGonigal tau hais. Yog li, koj tuaj yeem tsim lo lus lossis kab lus ntawm koj tus kheej kom koj tus dev txhawm rau txhawm rau hais kom ua, lossis cia li siv qhov yooj yim, "hais lus."

Yuav Ntev Npaum Li Cas Yuav Qhia Aub Kom Tom Ntej?

Txhua tus dev txawv, McGonigal hais tias, thiab paub koj tus dev yog tus yuam sij. Qee tus dev tham ntau dua thiab kawm tau sai dua li lwm tus, tab sis feem ntau, qee qhov kev cob qhia yuav tsum ua cov txiaj ntsig. Nws tau hais tias "Vim tias kev xyoob ntoo yog qhov muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau tus kheej, [dev] nyiam khaws nws ntau me ntsis," nws hais. “Lawv yuav ntes tau li ntawm ob peb asthiv. Nws yuav tsis nyuaj heev.”

Lub sijhawm qhia ua haujlwm tseem tuaj yeem yog nyob ntawm ntau npaum li cas kev qhia keeb kwm ntawm tib neeg thiab dev tau muaj ua ke, Klein tau hais. Nws sib tham yog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev cob qhia tus dev kom tawv ntoo, nws txhais tau tias, uas txhais tau tias koj yuav tsum niaj hnub hais cov lus khawv koob thiab muab nqi zog rau koj tus dev ua raws li koj xav tau. Nws tau hais tias "Yog tias koj tsis phim lub cev, ces tus dev yuav tsis tso ob thiab ob qho tib si ua ke,"

Hmoov tsis zoo, kev cob qhia koj tus dev los hais lus me me dhau lawm tuaj yeem tsim teeb meem, thiab qhov nyiaj tus cwj pwm kev cob qhia tuaj yeem ua rau tsis muaj kev kawm yog nyob ntawm tus dev, tus neeg McGonigal tau hais. Tib cov ntsiab cai ntawm kev cob qhia yuav siv, txawm hais tias lub sijhawm no koj yuav tau muab nqi zog rau koj tus dev lub ntsiag to nrog cov lus uas txhais tau tias, "nyob ntsiag to."

Txhua yam uas koj ua, tsis txhob qw rau koj tus dev thaum nws hle tawv, txawm hais tias daim tawv nqaij tsis zoo. Ib yam li kev sib cav nrog tib neeg, thaum ob tus neeg sib qw, qhov sib pauv ua cua sov thiab tsis muaj txiaj ntsig. Klein tau hais tias, "Koj yuav rov ua dua qhov tawv ntoo ntxiv yog tias ua tib zoo mloog." Hloov ntawm kev qw ntawm koj tus dev txhawm rau txhawm rau txhawm rau txhawm rau, sim txhawm rau txheeb xyuas qhov kev tawm tsam uas ua rau tawv ncauj tsis tsim nyog thiab tshem tawm qhov kev txhawb nqa lossis tshem tawm tus dev ntawm kev tawm tsam.