Ib Tug Vet Piav Qhia Vim Li Cas Cov Vauv Tsis Ua Haujlwm Hauv Kev Cob Qhia Dev

2024 Tus sau: Daisy Haig | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 03:09

Maverick thiab kuv tau nyob ntawm ntug hiav txwv ib hnub nrog peb tus phooj ywg thiab lawv cov menyuam yaus - lub Border Collie thiab Lab Lab Dub - ob leeg hauv Maverick lub hnub nyoog. Raws li kuv tau piav qhia hauv blog yav dhau los, Maverick thiab kuv siv peb lub sijhawm ntawm lub puam nrhiav cov dev uas ua phooj ywg zoo kom kuv tuaj yeem siv cov dev ua si raws li tus nqi zog rau kev coj tus cwj pwm ntawm Maverick qhov. Peb tau ua cia li ntawd hauv hnub no.

Thaum peb taug kev hauv lub puam peb tuaj hla tus txiv neej laus dua nrog qhov chaw kuaj ntshav daj. Thaum nws thiab kuv tham, Kuv kawm paub tias nws tus dev Sophie muaj 8 xyoo. Thaum kuv taug kev hauv lub puam tham nrog nws txiv, Maverick thiab Sophie ua si hauv vuag. Sophie tsis ntev tau kawm paub tias kuv tau kho kuv tus kheej hauv kuv lub hnab, uas kuv zoo siab muab tawm rau qhov coj tus cwj pwm zoo.

Nws yog kev lom zem taug kev. Peb kawg ntes nrog kuv cov phooj ywg thiab peb xaus kev taug kev. Tsis tsimnyog li, Sophie xav nyob nrog peb. Dab tsi tsis yog nyiam? Muaj peb tus dev ua si nrog thiab tus neeg luv yuav ua rau kuv mob siab! Yog li ntawd, thaum nws txiv taug kev, Sophie tseem nrog peb nyob. Kuv yuav nco nws, tab sis kuv tsis tau hnov nws hu nws los rau ntawm nws. Nws tau txais txoj kev deb thiab kuv tau poob ntawm nws thaum kuv saib Maverick kev ua si. Kuv tig saib kuv sab laug thiab sab kaum ntawm kuv lub qhov muag, kuv pom tus tswv tsev Sophie tuav nws pw ntawm nws ib sab. Kuv tig mus rau kuv cov phooj ywg thiab hais tias, "Ick." Hauv feeb, nws tau cia nws mus thiab lawv tau nqis mus tom ntug dej. Kuv tsis txhob cem Sophie txiv rau qhov uas tau muaj tshwm sim, tsawg kawg tsis yog. Qhov no txav ntawm ntuav dev rau hauv av thiab tuav lawv cia yog heev thoob plaws rau TV.

Txoj cai ntawm kev tuav tus dev cia forcibly raws li kev kho kho feem ntau yog hu ua "dominance down." Nws yog qhov tsis tsim nyog, tsis zoo, thiab tag kev tsis zoo thaum sib tham nrog dev. Hauv kev txhais tes - tsis txhob ua nws. Puas.

Qhov kev poob ntawm cov thawj coj qis ua ntej tuaj tawm ntawm lub tswv yim tias kev mloog lus yog feem ntau qhia los ntawm cov canids thaum lawv nthuav tawm lawv cov thaj av (qhov chaw nyob ntawm qhov chaw mos) thaum lawv pw hauv av. Yog li, ib tug neeg tau xav tias qhov kev ua no yuav yog txoj hauv kev zoo kom yuam cov dev kom mloog lus thiab tau txais kev mloog lus los ntawm yuam lawv hauv txoj haujlwm no. Tiav tas nrho.

Qhov no yog qhov khuav raws ntau txoj kev.

Ua ntej, ua ntej cov dev muab cov cuav rau lwm tus dev, muaj ntau ntau ntawm lwm cov cim ntawm lub cev uas sib cuam tshuam ntawm cov dev. Cov paib no feem ntau xav tiv thaiv qhov xwm txheej kom tsis txhob muaj kev sib ntaus. Yog tias qhov kev tawm tsam tsis tuaj yeem zam nrog cov phiajcim ntau dua, muaj cov cim taw qhia ntau dua, xws li lub hauv plab lub teeb liab ntawm qhov pom. Ua ntej tus tswv ua lub dominance nqis, muaj tsis tshua muaj ib lub cev lus qhia pauv uas yuav ua rau muaj kev nkag siab rau tus dev. Qhov no ua rau kev cuam tshuam sib xyaw rau tus dev. Nws tawm hauv qhov xiav, uas ua rau nws txaus ntshai, thiab rau qee tus dev nws zoo li kev caw kom sib ntaus.

Thib ob, dev muab txoj haujlwm zoo li no, lawv tsis thawb ib leeg pov ib leeg rau hauv av yam tsis tas ceeb toom. Cov tswv tau muab cov dev pov rau hauv av yam tsis muaj lus ceeb toom. Qhov no ua rau muaj kev ntshai ntawm tus tswv thiab muab cov dev predisposed rau kev tawm tsam hauv kev sib ntaus. Xav seb koj yuav xav li cas yog tias koj tus txij nkawm tsis nyiam qhov koj tau ua thiab txiav txim siab ua kom koj tsis lees yuav koj "kho" koj. Koj yuav xav li cas? Kuv yuav tua zoo li tsis muaj tag kis thiab tom qab ntawd hu rau tub ceev xwm. Qhov no piav qhia txog vim li cas ntau tus tswv tsev raug yoov thaum ua qhov kev hloov tsis zoo no.

Qeb peb, Kev ntshai tsis muaj kev mloog lus sib npaug zos. Nws tsuas sib npaug ntshai. Kuv xav yuav txhua yam uas kuv muaj yog tias Sophie tus txiv tsis tau ua rau nws tsis mloog lus thaum muab nws nyob hauv qhov xwm txheej ib zaug ntxiv. Qhov ntawd tau ua rau nws tsis ntseeg nws thiab ntshai nws. Cov no yog ob lub xeev siab uas feem ntau ua rau tsis mloog lus, tsis ua raws. Cov kws cob qhia zoo tshaj plaws cob qhia lawv cov dev mloog lus zoo yog tias tsis tau sim ua kom muaj qhov no.

Thaum kawg, yog tias koj tsis cia li tso lub tswv yim tias koj tus dev yuav tsum xa rau koj, vim li cas koj tsis tsuas qhia koj tus dev kom pw ntawm nws ib sab? Tom qab ntawv, thaum koj xav qhia nws tias nws yuav tsum mloog lus, koj tsuas thov nws xwb. Uas zoo li yooj yim dua li tuav koj tus dev. Yog tias koj xav qhia koj tus dev tias koj muaj peev xwm tshaj, muaj tswv yim zoo, thiab muaj hwj chim, thaum tseem qhia nws kom mloog lus, nrhiav tshuaj los ntawm tes. Tom qab ntawv, siv cov tshuaj mus ntxias nws mus rau hauv txoj haujlwm qis. Thaum nws tuaj yeem tso siab tau pw ntawm cue, koj tuaj yeem pib siv qhov kev kho mob kom ntxias nws lub taub hau rov qab rau nws lub xub pwg. Thaum nws xwm yeem ntog mus rau ntawm lub lauj tshib, txav qhov kev kho mob kom rov qab ntxias nws mus rau nws sab. Tom qab ntawv, ua txoj haujlwm no nrog hais lus sib xws xws li "dag ntawm koj sab."

Yooj yim li ntawd, koj tau ua tiav koj lub hom phiaj - ib tus dev mloog lus uas tau nkag mus rau hauv txoj haujlwm submissive. Thiab koj yuav ua tiav txhua qhov tsis muaj kev ntshai, hem, lossis quab yuam. Txhua tus yeej.

Dr. Lisa Radosta